"Leadership is about influence not control... I often hear leaders, particularly younger ones, complaining about their lack of control in various situations...What they are really saying is, 'If I could control these people, I could guarantee the results.' The truth is that control is an illusion. You can’t control anyone, even the people that report to you. "However, while you can’t control anyone (except perhaps yourself), you can influence nearly everyone. This is the essence of true leadership. By this definition, Jesus, Mahatma Gandhi, and Martin Luther King were great leaders. They had control of virtually no one, yet their influence changed the course of history.
"Aspiring leaders would do well to stop focusing on control and figure out how to expand their influence..."
Refer to this post From Where I Sit for four ways you can become a person of influence, no matter where you are in the organization.